BEFORE YOU WRITE
Look beyond the main photo
Photos create a first impression, but interests, profile text and lifestyle can tell you much more about what you could actually discuss.
- Read more than one part of the profile.
- Look for interests that genuinely intrigue you.
- Avoid judging from one photo alone.
- Choose someone you naturally want to ask something.
BREAK THE ICE
Do not be afraid to send the first message
You do not need to wait for him to start. A simple comment connected to his profile can be enough.
A genuine question about an interest often works better than a carefully rehearsed line.
FIRST MESSAGE EXAMPLES
Ideas for starting naturally
The best first message usually comes from something you genuinely noticed in his profile. Mention that detail and add an open question so he has an easy way to continue the conversation.
- “I saw you enjoy travelling — which place has stayed with you the most?”
- “That photo caught my attention. Is there a story behind it?”
- “You mention music in your profile. What are you listening to at the moment?”
- “Your profile made me curious. What should I ask you about first?”
AFTER THE FIRST MESSAGES
Turn questions into a real conversation
React to his answers and tell him something about yourself as well.
BEYOND THE PROFILE
Discover his personality gradually
Talk about interests, travel, plans, humour and everyday life without trying to measure perfect compatibility immediately.
RECIPROCITY
A good sign: he wants to know you too
If he asks questions, remembers details and introduces new topics, he is actively participating.